Appreciation is an underutilized, yet hugely valuable, ingredient in successful relationships. Many of us take a major blow to our self-esteem when we divorce. Practicing appreciation of ourselves and others can help heal our wounded hearts. Part 1 covered how appreciation is like a fertilizer that can help relationships grow and strengthen. Expressing verbal and […]

Is there anything more mysterious in the world than the formula to having a successful romantic relationship? As a divorced woman, I now marvel at those who are able to create passionate, loving, long-term relationships. From my studies with books and the school of hard knocks, I believe that one of the most important ingredients […]

Living life as a separated or divorced person is like wandering into uncharted territory. Like a traveler in a foreign country, so much of what you will experience is new or unfamiliar. There’s the legal process, your changing social network, the emotional roller coaster rides, creating new relationships, the opportunity to redefine and reinvent yourself. […]

Divorce can really knock your self-esteem for a loop. When you’re in an intimate relationship with another human being, a huge sense of who you are and your self-worth is tied up in the relationship. When that committed relationship ends, the degree to which you’re reliant on someone else for your sense of self-worth becomes […]

Blended families are becoming more and more the norm. One in three Americans is a member of a blended family. I’m sure Canada’s statistics are very similar. Looking at my own family of four, 75% of my family is blended because my children have step-siblings. Bringing divorced parents together for special events, like graduations, weddings […]

A new study by Statistics Canada shows that men are more likely to suffer depression than women in the two years after a marriage or common-law relationship breaks up. The longitudinal data from the National Population Health Survey showed that men, aged 20-64, were 6 times more likely to report an episode of depression than […]

ABC is airing a new reality TV show, called the Ex-Wives Club, starting May 28. Hosted by Marla Maples, Shar Jackson and Angie Everhart, the show takes separated and divorced men and women on a journey to rebuild their self-esteem and their lives. The series features my mentor, Debbie Ford, as she coaches these individuals […]

Divorce can definitely bring out the worst in people. Often adults will revert to behavior worthy of the school yard bully. Witness the recent public outing of actor Alec Baldwin, who unleashed the fury of his anger and despair of his divorce at his 11-year old daughter. Baldwin has been embroiled in a messy divorce […]

THE ART OF ALLOWING
Separation and divorce are two of the biggest rollercoaster rides you’ll ever find emotionally. The Law of Attraction can give you some traction so you can regain your footing and see your way forward in your divorce journey.
Review of Steps One and Two
Our thoughts create feelings, which in turn create vibrations that […]

THE FIRST TWO STEPS 
The Law of Attraction states that “like attracts like” and that what you focus your attention on will expand. It is in operation whether we hold a positive or a negative thought. People working their way through the divorce process are often flooded with thoughts and feelings they don’t want. Using words […]