Harvest Your Wisdom for Future Success

When facing challenges or uncertainty, some of the greatest tools we have at our disposal is past experience. Every incident – whether joyful or traumatic – contains the seeds of your greatness that help you step into the next greatest evolution of you.

Too often we rush quickly past the missteps, the failures and even the successes in our drive to get on to the next thing. But in that rush to get to some preconceived destination, we miss the joy and the wisdom of the journey. Just as the vineyard owner carefully harvests the grapes to produce a fine wine, so we must take the time to harvest our own wisdom of life experience so we can savor the fullness of life.

I invite you to use these contemplations and action questions to help you harvest your own wisdom so you can apply it in service of your future success.

H – Heart

Too often when people are faced with a challenge, they try to “figure it all out” and lead from their head. (I know – I’ve done that many times myself!) Adopting a strictly rational approach and minimizing or denying our feelings is ultimately a recipe for disaster. This has been a year when so many people are waking up and feeling the call of their hearts to lead lives of more passion and deeper meaning. Letting yourself lead from your heart creates powerful connection to others.

What could be possible for you if you could let your heart’s wisdom and strength guide you even more powerfully this year?

A – Acceptance

Acceptance is a key ingredient to living with more peace and ease. Of course there are situations where wrongs must be righted, boundaries set or expectations clarified. But I see everything as part of a spiritual curriculum that we have created for ourselves. I accept that I can choose each day to live with as much heart and consciousness as I am able. Some days are easier than others to do that! I accept that heartaches, victories and quiet moments all contribute to the fabric of who I have become today, and I am grateful for it all.

Where have you been in resistance to something and how can you find a greater level of acceptance?

R – Resilience

The pace of our daily lives operates at such an accelerated rate and change is the only constant. More than ever, we need to be adaptable to changing and challenging circumstances. Resilience helps us to draw upon those inner resources and strength we may not have realized we had. It allows us to stay flexible and regroup when we need to.

Where can you acknowledge yourself for the great resilience you are already showing?

V – Vision

Like the beacon of a lighthouse guides a ship through rocky waters, our vision of who we want to be in the world and what we want to accomplish is our personal beacon. It can be easy to lose sight of that vision or to substitute someone else’s for your own. But creating a vision uplifts and motivates you to keep going through even the tough times because you keep the bigger picture in mind.

What elements need to be a part of your life’s vision so that it would inspire and uplift you?

E – Excellence

No matter what you do, bring your best effort and highest integrity to it. Hold an expectation of excellence for yourself and others. In the world today, there are too many people taking shortcuts or backdoors. When you commit to excellence you naturally alchemize the best that is already within you to come forward.

Where can you express excellence today?

S – Service

I’ve always had the perspective of leaving an environment a little better than when I found it. Even when I was working in a bullpen office on Wall Street putting together municipal bond deals, I was looking from the lens of “How can I make this process a bit better? How can I empower others to work together more effectively?”

How can you be of service – to others and to yourself – so that you leave the world at least a little better off than how you found it today?

T – Trust

Without trust, we become paralyzed. The road ahead can never become clear unless we are willing to take the first step out in trust. With trust, we know that we are never given more than we can handle.

What can you do today to feel more trust within yourself?

7 thoughts on “Harvest Your Wisdom for Future Success

  1. As the owner of an online divorce website here in the UK I can fully endorse what you are saying. Focus on what is good about your life and get rid of negativity. Life can get better for both couples if they can banish resentment and embrace their future.

  2. Recently divorced and searching for resources to help me cope. I keyword searched and this website came back. Have you written any books? You ought to. Very sage, eloquent advice. I have to say, my pastor and my lawyer at McKinley Irvin are the only things that kept me sane. My parents are deceased and I’m an only child, so my constructed community has been key. I will include HARVEST into my evolving worldview. Thnx.

  3. Thanks so much for your comments Jackson! I’m glad the word HARVEST will support you. And yes, I have written an award-winning book called “The 7 Pitfalls of Single Parenting: What to Avoid to Help Your Children Thrive after Divorce.” You can check it out at http://www.ThriveafterDivorce.com or on Amazon.com. Best wishes to you! Carolyn

  4. Loved your post Carolyn. You have a very good insight on how we should look at ALL of our past experiences.

    Most people make the mistake of living in resentment of people (or even themselves) because of past situations or experiences that they were a part of.

    And while it’s true that many times people have unfair things happen to them, that are outside of their.

    control… at the end of the day, we are ALL in control of how we look at those experiences.

    You just reminded me.

  5. (Sorry, I’m writing a cell phone). But I was saying you reminded me that we need to look to gain something positive from all situations that we are a part of. -daniel

  6. I came across Carolyn Elli’s Thrive After Divorce a few years after my divorce – I had gone through so much unnecessary pain. I call it unnecessary because when you have the right tools, the right support, the pain can dissipate a bit faster as you learn to focus on the good things you have and how you can use these things to move forward safely and healthy. I’ve been receiving Carolyn’s emails for a number of years now and her wisdom helps me in walking with faith and with a smile and with the desire to help others. I share her wisdom with others. One thing that I learned (THE HARD WAY) during my divorce process was to STOP playing the victim role. My therapist was tough, she did not want to hear anything about my ex-husband and all i wanted was to tell her that he was being a nightmare. She did not want to hear it. She FORCED me to focus on what I was going to do to get back on my feet and help my child do the same in a safely and healthy way. When I started to receive Carolyn’s emails I came to very much appreciate the wonderful woman my therapist was. God bless her. To Carolyn, thank you so much for your kindness and generosity. I love to read anything that you have to say. I hope your dog gets better. thank you. Angie Klein